High maintenance dude situation
25 year-old from PortlandMy guy friends are acting like girlfriends lately. Not sure if it’s something in the water here, but some of them are acting really high-maintenance, giving me attitude about not calling them back and not spending enough quality time together. It’s making me sick just writing this. I already have a girlfriend and can’t deal with any more of this bromance crap.
Answer: We can assure you, this kind of emotional baggage isn’t specific to Portland; it’s a nationwide epidemic that tends to afflict post-college guys. What we mean to say is, it might be time for you to grow up. As you get older, your friends are looking for someone who won’t flake out on them. If you’re a stand-up guy and your friends are just being anal, call them out on it ASAP. But it might be something you’re putting out there, according to resident friendship expert Dr Block. Apparently from the first minute of meeting, we teach others how to behave toward us by how we come off and how we respond to them. You’d like your guy friends to pull back? It wouldn’t be happening if you didn’t directly or indirectly encourage it. In other words, if you don’t reinforce your bromances, they’ll disappear faster than Brody Jenner’s career.
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It really doesn’t matter as far as you are happy with him. Stay proud of your relationship and dont fear what others have to say about it.
comment by Rajat at 10:29 pm
If it isn’t funny or about chicks or anything cool, tell them not to contact you.
I’m sick of my buds getting offended at everything now that we are in our late 20’s. I say one thing about one of their chicks, and they side with their chick and leave me out of parties, etc. What’s up with that? Why are dudes becoming so sensitive.
comment by dude at 1:40 pm