Life Without Sex
Impotence IssuesI was dating a guy for quite some time and eventually he moved in with me. He was verya ttentive in every way except the bedroom. Right away he stared calling sex 'work' and saying 'yu expect me to work again'. I have never experienced this before and didn't know what to think. He always said he was tired. Then he fianlly admitted to me that he had a serious problem that he ahd for years. He is over weight and eats everything he isn't suposed to. He is borderline diabetic and now is on meds for that and bloodpressure. I have since broken up with him but miss him. How dod you get passed something like that? He really messed with my head and still wants to marry me.. Biggest problem I love sex.. And can't imagine liveing without.
It's not easy to stump us, but you've managed to do so. The team at Moonit nearly fell out of our chairs while reading this. We have literally never come across an incident of a guy referring to "sex" as "work," so hats off to you for bringing this to our attention. Let's get this straight: this guy you're pining over is an overweight diabetic with an impotence problem? In that case, we won't be the first to tell you that you can do much better. It's touching that you're a sensitive enough person to still care for him, but you need to have your needs met in a relationship, and sex is a big one! We guarantee that the next guy you meet who rocks your world in the bedroom will have you forgetting what's-his-name ever existed. TRUST US. You'll be the girl that got away, not the other way around.
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You are missing the company. As soon as you realize what is important for you, you will be fine. Don’t need to feel guilty, you are not abandoned him, on the contrary you are taking care of yourself. Hard to digest without feeling selfish, but ask yourself if you want a marriage like that or something else
comment by Tania Teran at 11:07 am
I think that the guy being so unhealthy is a much larger issue than the sex. If he would at least eat better and try to take care of himself, then he will feel better about himself. Eating bad and not taking care of your body will make you feel extremely sluggish and I can see where sex would become “work” to him. I bet he feels horrible when he’s put in a sexual situation because he does not have confidence and feels like crap. I think you should talk to him about what you what/need and that if you were to marry someone it would be someone who wants to take care of themselves to be able to be a good husband to you. If he can’t see this, than I would move on. Good luck!
comment by Nora at 7:55 am
Give yourself time. Ask yourself what it is you truly missed about him. There’s clearly an important need you have he’s not commited to fullfilling. The reality is, he’s not the last word in having a happy relationship. Be patient and you will meet someone who is a better match for you.
comment by Valerya at 4:45 pm
um yes believe it or not there are women out there who love sex. it’s not a guy thing.
comment by jill at 10:22 am
wait did you say your biggest problem is that you love sex? who is this woman and how can i meet her?
comment by mark at 10:21 am
Get out while you can! He must move out before you start feeling sorry for him. I have been trapped with this same man for 30 years! he convinced me I was the one with the problem. He’s ruined a lot of years that could have been good sexually. I’ve only discovered how wonderful, caring, relaxing, passionate, hot, essential, natural, intimate sex is. And it feels damn good. Dump him now, and without a second thought.
comment by Mary at 9:50 am