Pissed I’m not invited to a wedding with my live-in BF!
My boyfriend and I were not together the month his friend was putting their wedding invitations together. However, since February, we have been together again and even live together now. My boyfriend picked up the invitation today (Sept.1), and there was no plus 1. The couple has known we have have been together too. Should I be as upset as I am right now? They did not let either one of know that didn't put me on the list even though they knew we were back together. The wedding is in November
A lot of our close friends have had this problem, on both sides! So we can totally understand where you're coming from and where that other couple is coming from. What you've got going for you is the fact that you two have been back together for 7 months and even LIVE together, so that's serious stuff. Since your boyfriend is the closer one to the couple, it's on him to pick up the phone and (respectfully) ask that you be added to the guest list, noting the two points I just brought up above. The way this economy has been going, it's a good chance they're having a small "intimate" wedding, so that will be their side of the story, and they'll say the cut-off ended up being the month they sent the invites out. It's up to your BF to flex his negotiation skills to make it happen -- he's got to explain to them that you're going to be a permanent fixture in his life so this is far from being a rent-a-date situation!
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Wedding invitations are expensive, and to change the RSVP also means to change the seat planning, the amount of food catered… You never know. I’d just let it go, it’s not that bad. It’s not like they’re your really close friend getting married or anything, they’re just your boyfriend’s friends. So it shouldn’t bother you so much, you’ll be fine. Just relax. 
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comment by joy at 10:41 am
Pleaseeee, he can not ask his friends to add you ? DUMP EM !
comment by Maurice at 10:00 pm
A similar thing happened to me, except I was the one invited minus my live-in boyfriend. I spoke to the couple (good friends of mine) and told them how I felt. They said cost was a big issue, they couldn’t afford to invite everyone they would have liked, but if I wanted to come I’d have to come alone. I didn’t go. I love them, but I knew if the situation were reversed, I’d be really upset if my boyfriend went to a wedding alone that I wasn’t invited to. I wished them well, and that was that.
comment by Cat at 8:01 pm