Should I get back with my baby’s daddy?
There is this guy who got me pregnant he was so happy he was going to be afather but at 8mths of my preg idont know what got over his head to tell me to abort i cldnt believe,i smelt a rat. i told him its ok i will not risk my life doing abortion. aweek went and i gave birth normally i thank God,by then i wasnt working and this guy could not even think of bringing anything for me and my son.when my son was 5mths iheard and witnessed a new girlfriend at his home but i couldnt say a word thou he was the father of my son i left him to do what he thought was right but it was painful and hurting.time passed and he chased away the girlfriend,when iwas still at home with my kid who is now 1 yr,God opened away and gave me a job.to be brief, this guy wants me back,he says he has realised his mistake and that i should forgive him but a gain my parents are so annoyed with him for what he did.please advice.Idont want to make a mistake.should i forgive him or i forget about him?.
He is your child's father, so we definitely understand how difficult this must be for you. But any guy who "tells you" to abort your child is not going to be a good influence on your life -- it's your body, not his. The most disturbing part of your question is the fact that you were 8 months pregnant at the time! Not only would it be 100% illegal to get an abortion that late in your pregnancy, but you would have put your health at serious risk. This is someone who doesn't exercise good judgment and has demonstrated that he has zero concern for your well being and that of your child! Your parents are right, but it is ultimately your decision what to do. We would suggest you get on with your life since you seem to have it back on track.
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when i found out i was pregnat the father was very happy however at the time he worked away from home but when he cmes on weekends he stay with his ex whom they have two children with. i ask him why he said he does it for his children but i should wait when i give birth we will be together for good but i should not see another guy however he treats me so terrible that i seek help to the only friend i had which was a guy so he left me at 6month pregnant. after i give birth he was back with his ex now and i wanted him back. my child is 6month now and i still want him back. plus he is 23years older than me in his 40s after all that i still love him more than anything. he see my child whenever he has time. he say the break up was my fault and i feel if i listen we would be together right now cause we loved each other very much. 19 years of my life never feel so much love for anyone the way i feel for the father of my child. I asked him if we would ever be together he say only time will tell. i love the other mother every much but my love for her gf is more to be honest don’t want to be the other woman but at this point i feel so hopeless i will get anything he offers help me please.
comment by help at 8:20 am
It’s hard if love is still present I’m in your shoes. Everyone I talk to about my baby daddy and how I still like him and how he wants us back now. He left us when my baby was one month old and now my baby is 18 months. I’ve struggled so much but I did my best to be the best mother out here for my son. I had a job which I certainly did not like but it was better than nothing. As long as my baby had what he needed I was happy.. he now has another child with this other girl who now he isn’t with. Last couple of weeks he told me that he would like to try it out again?! I really don’t know what to do?! I still have feelings for him but I don’t know if I should take him back. There’s always pros and cons to every situation. And I’m scard that my baby will get so attached to him and if he ever decides to leave again the only one who will suffer will be my son.. and that what I don’t want.. hope everything works out well on whatever u decide.. its only up to u.. good luck and I wish u the best!!
comment by jic71589 at 2:59 am
Im a man who is reading your story and I have to say my dear…listen to your Parents.
Any man or Woman who treats the like what your telling us they DO NOT deserve you,in time he would just hurt you or your son and you dont need that. Move on with your life , get a job, go back to school, find someone who attends Church,that you can hook up with,but most of all keep your babies Daddy out of your life hes no good for you or your Baby.
comment by David Kent at 8:08 am
I was married to the father of my child for 6 years before I realized that people really do not change. My advice–tell him you hope that he is ready to step up and be a good father, but that his chance to be a good partner is over. If he really has matured he will realize what being a good father takes. You need to look for a man who will be your best friend, greatest ally, confident and support–always. They are out there, and when you find him, you will wonder why on earth you wasted a second thinking about being with a man who showed you time and time again that he will never love anyone as much as he loves himself. Good luck. Being a single parent and dating is tough–but being a parent in a drama filled stressed out relationship is tougher. Find your peace, get yourself financially and emotionally independent and then find Mr Wonderful to come compliment your life–not turn it upside.
comment by jennifer at 11:55 am
being the father of your child makes matter difficult for you to decide, but look at the bright side,now you work, this means you are financially independent which means that you don’t want him for money but definitely you need a good father for your child and i feel that you love him, so, there would be no harm if you give both of you a chance before you make a final decision, i suggest that you set a period of time to spend with him, if he proves to be a responsible dad, extend the time set and so on until he passes all your tests and you yourself make sure that you really want him..good luck and take good care of your kid, may God help you..
comment by hala at 10:38 am
someone tell me what should i do. should i get back with him whenever i have the chance or forget him which seems impossible. if you think i can do it tell me how hate how i feel but i want my child to be close to his father more than anything.
comment by help at 8:28 am