Will he come back if I give him space?
Me and my boyfriend broke up. all of his friends are on my side and telling me that he will come back to me and i just need to give him space. we were together for 4 years. im not calling or txting him. its his birthday next weekend. his family calls me everyday telling me how much they love and miss me. do you think theres a chance he will come back if i continue giving him his space? im scared he will meet somebody.
Without knowing the real reason why the two of you broke up after what sounds like 4 years of happy togetherness, it's tough to say. But if we had to give you an answer, we'd say yes--there's certainly a chance he'll come back if you continue to give him his space. We've seen this happen a number of times, and people have not only gotten back together but have made even more of a commitment to each other after getting some perspective. It's good that you're not calling or texting him right now if he needs time to reflect on your relationship and what he really wants. However, you also need to take this time to think about what YOU need instead of just waiting around for him to come to your senses. Make a list of the top 10 things you want to get out of a relationship and see if the one you were in was really & truly fulfilling these things for you. Make sure you're not just obsessing over him because of a bruised ego or insecurity about him hooking up with someone prettier, smarter or more fun than you. When the two of you guys eventually meet up to talk about what you want, you don't want to be a nervous, insecure wreck. Even though your friends and family think you're the one for him, you need to be the one who's confident in yourself that you're the best thing that's ever happened to him. And that confidence is more sexy and attractive than the skimpiest piece of lingerie you can get your hands on. If you've got that going for you, you'll be all set.
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try to give him time to think if he truly loves you>>>then after that sacrifice i’m sure you’ll know what is the truth,,try to accept the consequences<< OWKEY????
comment by Edlyn Joy S. Guly at 1:24 am
SPACE? OR BETTER YET SOMEONE ELSE …. MOVE ON !!! DON’T FALL FOR THAT!
comment by lisa at 3:32 pm
Another thing, you kissing up to his family will NOT work! He will just become more distant and dislike you even more. By any chance did he ever wanted to marry you? If you both only talked about it, and he asked someone else yo werent what he wanted. I know a guy that has this situation, been with this girl for 4 years. He explained how she tried to change him into what she wanted him to be. How she kissed up to his family, how she talked down to him, never gave him no space, he eventually became disgusted by her appearance, that she become overweight and sloppy, she didnt accept him for who he was, and she was sneaky and followed the stupidness of his sister and mother BS. How she went to his friends and family when they broke trying to start drama for him. Basically he just explained that he was only with her because of his family. He didnt love her at all. He found it with someone else, that he wants to marry and have kids with. He even blocked her.
comment by Lenee at 3:52 am
Well you might want to move on, you cant make him want you. No MATTER WHAT YOU DO! He wasnt for you, I think he has moved on. Get over it!
comment by Lenee at 3:41 am
you havent published and answered my chouch yet. please do. im desperate to know.. and to hear your and everybody’s advice.
comment by Lily at 8:20 pm
i don’t think he will come back to u. and if he did don’t accept him
comment by mohamad at 7:56 pm
It depends on how you really feel about him. Being together for four years is a long time, so you must have got really used to each other’s company. If you really still love him, I’d say you should tell him. Explain how you really feel and see if he feels the same way. If he doesn’t, then you know you can move on and not take any interest in him. If he says he does, then it will be a fairy-tale and you two can live happily-ever-after. Just confront him, and find out the truth.
comment by crushed99 at 2:11 pm
I’m leaning towards no, he’s cheating…..otherwise you are crazy and he cant deal anymore.
comment by Elizabeth Kelly at 5:51 pm
where iz the answer of my couch?m not finding it.
comment by rabia at 11:49 am
Wow who ever u r. U r a hater…. how u going to tell her something like that.. she is doing a good job by keeping away n if his family love her then he loves her even more… is haters like this that come inbetween something good. Now there may be a reason y he holding back… maybe he dont wabtto hurt u. So continue to give hin th space….. u will see how it goes later…
comment by mina at 11:05 am