Courtney Loses Custody
What do you think?
We never said Courtney Love was up for “Mother of the Year” or anything, but we also never thought we’d see her give Joan Crawford a run for her money. Earlier this week, Love lost legal custody of her 17-year-old daughter, Frances Bean, and while Love swears up and down that she’s not back on the sauce, Frances’ paternal grandmother and aunt have stepped in as acting guardians.
In fact, rock royalty Frances–the daughter of Love and dearly-departed Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain–has taken great pains to separate herself from her parents’ personae, and has called her grandmother, “the person I respect most out of anybody in the world.” If you read between the lines, that’s a decent-sized slag on Courtney. (Our translation looks something like, “Dont get your hopes up, Mom. Grandma’s the person I actually look up to.” Which? Ouch.)
We think it’s great that Frances has stabilizing, non-rocker influences in her life, but if Love’s not living it up again, what’s the reason for their rift? Moonit delved into the mother-daughter melee to find the truth behind the split. According to their birth date analysis, “unless Mother Teresa taught Courtney her coping skills, she’s going to be ready to blow her stack on a daily basis.” We’d read reports about Frances’ stubborn, strong-willed nature, and that (mixed with Courtney’s notorious outrageousness) might explain why Frances and Courtney get along about as well as a Kardashian with a standarized test.
In this relationship, “every tiny decision requires an in-depth discussion, and every interaction sets the stage for a new potential disaster. So, what’s at the root of their issues? First off, they’ve got completely different ways of dealing with stress, and they never seem to be on the same page with their moods.” Not only are they at opposite ends of the emotional sine curve, but, “to top it off, they don’t have a healthy, mutual release valve for the pressure and tension that seem to be constantly building.” Wow. Maybe their separation isn’t such a bad idea…
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I feel for Courtney. Her childhood was so messed up and emotionally deprived, for her to have turned out to be a good Mom would have required a miracle. Just because she is unable to care for her child does not mean Courtney is okay with losing custody of her daughter. I believe the situation adds more torment to an already tormented soul. Like my poor mother, life did not equip Courtney to be able to properly nurture her child. I am not making excuses for anybody here, I am stating an obvious fact. Women with abandonment issues really struggle with being mothers themselves. I knew this instinctively, that is why I have no children. As an adult I now see my mother both being a toxic Mom, and watch her tear herself up over it. It’s a vicious cycle that continues though I am nearly fifty, and my mother nearly eighty years old. I long for healing for us both, but am unable to face being hurt by her yet again in order to make peace. Women with abandonment issues often find they want so badly to be good Moms, but find they have great difficulty overcoming their own childhood lack of love, security, and support, as they are still looking for that in their own lives.
yes, and we all know what kind of a banged up job they did raising their drug using son Kurt and how he wound up
comment by Ray at 8:50 pm
scary people like that even have kids
comment by deepak at 6:40 am
that’s just cold
comment by leroy at 7:17 pm
comment by Lorie at 11:00 am